So I've been losing weight for a few months now, and I'm pleased to say that I've lost nearly 1.5 stone. Pretty good going. And I'm pleased. Pleased. It's an achievement. So why is it that there is this awkwardness in celebrating that?
I had a colleague come up to me at the photocopier (yes, really) and look me very seriously in the eye... in order to congratulate me. His praise was genuinely heartfelt, I was delighted. I'm immensely grateful for that little metaphorical slap-on-the-back, but it seems that giving the praise didn't make my colleage feel quite so delighted. He cavetated heavily with a 'Don't take this the wrong way' and a 'I hope you don't mind me mentioning it'... and he waited until we were alone and away from desks in case I was embarassed.
Now, I've always been a big girl, but I'm not keeping my diet a secret - I'm open about it in the office, I make jokes about weigh-day, 'Fat Club', supportive clapping, because, hey, I'm proud. I've made a decision, I've stuck to it, and I'm riding the entire wave as it goes along. So why is it, that this celebration needs to stay at the weekly weigh-in?
We get the certificates, the stickers, the support, we have the facebook group, the highly supportive consultant and the new friends we've made - but why is it that out achievements make other people feel uncomfortable? If I'd stuggled with running, and then decided that I'd take part in a marathon, there would be celebrations and flag-waving along the way. Hit the wall? No problem. Your supporters will be by your side driving you on towards that finish line. But weight is different, its just too close to the line of being 'rude to mention' and so we end up in a strange dance of 'Oh you're looking well' (which either means you genuinely look well, or in Fat-Girl-Ease that you've put on loads of weight), or 'have you done something to your hair/makeup/clothes' - heaven help anyone to mention the fact that you may have had a few pounds to lose, and my goodness you've taken the bull by the horns and shifted them!
Weight is a taboo. I've been on the other end of name calling, and it's something that I myself have been very sensitive about in the past, so when someone makes a positive change, it shouldn't be hidden under a bushel. I'm proud of how far I've got so-far, and look forward to basking in more compliments as I continue to trim.
So to all you dieters out there: Go you! Great stuff! Be proud!